When you have your first child, then it is the time to get serious about
your life and make some good habits by leaving few bad habits like careless
attitudes towards different things in your routine. But what makes you the
perfect parent is to understand your child rather than shouting on that
little angel who has entered in your world. Growing children is not an easy job
but it is not as difficult as most people think about it.
Below are some useful tips that would help you to become a good parent
and bring your child up in a perfect and more useful way.
Treat Your Children as Human Rather than Machines:
As we are living in an industrialized era where everything works pretty
fast and can be done on a simple click so we have become habitual of this
perfect process of getting things done. But children are not a computer set or
your mobile phone. You would have to teach them everything from the start but
while teaching something to your child, keep this thing in mind that they are
not machines that would respond to your command. Try to understand their
psychic level when you talk to them or teach them something. It is important to
behave politely if you want them to be polite and gentle to everyone.
Teach the Child Your Family Traditions And Get Attached with Him/her:
Children need proper attention especially from their parents. If you
want to connect them with their roots then you would have to manage spare time
to talk to your child and teach him your family traditions and through this
way, you will find more connected with your child. While doing that, you would
be redirecting him/her to a specific direction from the early age that will cut
your duties later.
Growth has Many Stages:
The growing period is usually comprised of two stages i.e. physical and
mental. If your child is developing to learn something new that relates to
mental activity then you should encourage your child as a supportive parent
rather than dictating him/her as a military officer where there is no break
during practice sessions or drills. If your child does not learn how to do
something then you should teach your child that this is not the end and he/she
would have another chance later and advise him as a good parent to not
take much stress on his nerves.
You should guide your child that there is a lesson in his failure that
he tried something and you should encourage him/her to give it another try.
This would help your child to learn different ways to do the same thing when
he/she put some force on his head.
Encourage Children To Do Good Things:
If your child is curious about different things that he try to find out
the internal truth of them then you should not become a hurdle of their
learning process. Instead, you should try to support them by standing behind
them and make them feel like you trust them in whatever they are busy at the
moment. Every parent loves their child but if you just put that thing
straight into their lap then they may not perform well when they have to do it
all alone. So be the supportive character in their small but beautiful world of
conquering things by themselves rather than becoming a wishing well.
On the contrary, if you become the hero of their world by fulfilling
each and every wish of their life without making them work for it then you are
most likely to spoil their abilities to do any specific thing in their life.
They are going to take care of the world few years later so you should prepare
them as a friend or role model rather than doing things for them every time.
Control Yourself When Your Child Push Your Buttons:
Sometimes, children get stubborn and demand for something that if you do
not get them what they want, they would not stop crying for it or it may be a
different demand like watching TV, playing games or maybe they want to stay
with you when you are going to office. You should act like a good parent
rather than lashing on them due to lacking time or for any other reason that is
disturbing you. Try to explain them your conditions and never ever scold them
for whatever they are behaving rudely. Children are like empty page and
everything that you do in front of them, print on that page and they would
repeat it after watching you doing that.
If you want your child not to speak loudly or shout every time then you
have to leave this habit first even if they made circumstances difficult for
you.
Children Learn from Us:
Every child, while staying with his/her parent, learns everything
from what they do and how they do that specific thing. Now when you are going
to deal with a new human being that do not know anything already but keeps the
ability to learn what he see and feel so you should act very carefully. Not
everyone is perfect so that doesn’t mean that no one can become a good parent.
You just need to explain everything to your child and guide him why something
happened and what he should do and what to avoid in his life. Even if you are
having a bad habit that you do not want your child to learn then as a good parent,
you should talk to your child and never break this bridge that connects your
child with you and keep you informed what he has learnt so far.
The Only Secret of Perfect Family is that there is No Secret:
Many people that are just starting to take care of their first child
think that how one can live a peaceful life with their children that do not
understand them instantly and behave in opposite direction every time. The
secret of a successful parenthood is just that there is no secret. If
you give proper time in listening what your child says to you then you are a
good parent and you should be proud of it. Every child irritates in
his/her early age but that doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t change themselves.
Children grows everyday but if you do not understand their needs and ignore
them then they will react accordingly that may create some disturbance in your
life.
Always get some time to spend with your child and share your childhood
stories with them so that they could relate to you rather than thinking you as
a nightmare due to your strict behavior. Bringing up your child requires patience
and good behavior so that they can come to you every time when they have some
problem in their lives and you should make them feel free in asking any problem
to you otherwise they will become stubborn and rude to you.
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